my brother jumped off the first floor yesterday...dad went and picked him up, with ofcourse, two more slaps as to why at all he jumped...he never listened long enough to know the reason of the first act...my brother, was frustrated...i am too...
unfortunately for my brother, he is an average chap...in india, that necessarily means being an average in studies. he is a terrific tennis champ...'no use' screams middle class indian mentality...he is a great musician...'no use' screams middle class mentality...he simply is not interested in studies...'useless, moron, idiot,' screams the middle class mentality...
the result...being some sort of a rebel, brought up with some sense of indian respect for parents, and constant nagging and insulting of my mum and dad happened to be a lethal combination for the poor chap...and bearing the slaps and boxes from dad, all he could do was jump...
i wish, TZP was made at least 10 years back so that, my brother could have been saved...he never found the time to hone his skills with the stuff mum kept telling him...
i have always resented parents wanting their wishes to be fulfilled by their sons and daughters...i have been coward enough not to tell this to ma and pa... help me...help me save my brother...help me save ma and pa from the pain of losing their son...and daughter...because unforunately again, i am not average...and feel the pain all the more...
oh...by the way, brother is fine now...back to studies and as ma says, 'sincerely'
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life is difficult for you when you decide to fight back...and give the world a piece of your mind...
Yes, that happens especially when younger brother/sister's achievements are overshadowed by elder one's glorious achievements. Because, then parents start comparing them and thats when the mental problem starts..the feeling of being inferior and that is when self confidence takes an all time low. That is sad but parents cant be blamed fully because till now education is the safest bet for parents in this country. But, to prevent such situations they(or atleast the elder one) should Open Up(very important) with their children and explain the ground level situation . We should trust that they have seen life much more than us.
Now, an Average Guy in India has ample opportunities in almost every field cause everything sells here but that depends how he/she taps it or sells his product/service. Its never too late just you need to figure out the priorities..hehe, thats what I'm tryin to do being an average Indian...
i agree that today there are ample opportunities for the average...but the opportunities come with the prerequisites of a sound economic background and an understanding in parts of the parents that their child won't die hungry...i know that it is just the concern of the parents, but beating up a kid mercilessly at the age, when he should have 'boys talk' with dads of 'girl talk' with mothers is absolutely meaningless...
that there are opportunities, that the average can survive, that it is not necessary for every one to be a 2008 batch AISSCE topper...is the call of the hour...i would really like parents to speak on this issue...but lets wait till this blog gets popular...
I don't nece'ly blame the parents, they are a part of this very "society" and they are scared. That does not make them right. I have issues with parents and teachers being always right. It's crap. They are freaking human beings and they can be wrong too. They do what's right for them and they think is right for that particular situation (can't even say that about teachers, nevermind, it's an entirely different discussion altogether).
Maybe it's upto us. Look for more avenues around us and do something! It's a vicious circle and will continue until the chain is broken.
I agree...
They are scared..
But they definitely need to understand the adolescent problem..
Its like choosing lesser of the two evils for them:
1) Let the adolescent do whatever his heart says thereby, choosing the possiblity that the ward may go haywire.
2) Be a strict parent and direct the him/her what he/she needs to do thereby, choosing the possibility that the ward may revolt against them.
So, most parents choose a midway and get caught there too because those same children blame them after they become very able.
Pity..lollzz..
Cant blame anybody...
The only way is that:
Parents should try and understand what are the problems that the adolescent is goin through... and the Adolescent should try and understand that anything that parents do they do cuz they love u and care for u..So, why not bringing them into your confidence...
May Peace spread everywhere...
thanks so much for the comments people, but it would be an addition if you could also mention the places you belong too...
i want this topic to be taken up by all the people concerned...
but isn't it necessary that parents try to see reason and know that the world today is changing...the more they pressurize the more the kids are prone to revolt...
after all, with the kinda knowledge and exposure every kid today has with tata sky and dish right at home..they are bound to notice that their counterparts elsewhere are treated much better!
I believe everyone in this world, is born with a certain skill...Man..Ive seen that...
And he/she should be allowed to utilize it in whichever way possible..
Thats the recipe of a happy and prosperous life...maybe..
GUWAHATI..
So, am I contradicting myself with the things I said before...
Maybe no....because parent-child harmony affects the happiness quotient of the child more....
So, I still say negotiation's imortant...
that's so true...parent child relationships and more importantly the parent understanding that the child has his own ability, own pace...
that's so important...
I wish we grow up to be parents brave enough not to impose our failed dreams on our children...i think that is the most selfish on can actually get...
imposing "our failed dreams on our children"....
yeahh...i like that...so true...
I pity them more for that while trying to pity myself for the same reason....
i understand...
they are more pitiable for that reason...
don't you people wish that sometimes this whole situation was different? that kids would have been happy to follow their parents' dreams or the parents were happy to let their kids follow their own dreams???
but yes, in india where there is so less of something called a personal life, and where privacy is a swear word and a sign of rebellion, this couldn't have happened...sometimes i feel that we have woken up the indian culture the wrong way...stuff couldn't have been this dismal for average kids...
Hmmm...
There are so many dedicated musicians and sportsmen who are not able to follow their aspired careers because of parents pressure...
Ultimately, its the WANNABES who take charge in these fields(most of the time)....
RESULT??
Giving rise to DAMN ****** MEDIOCRITY in this country...
In every field...
No olympics gold medals, degrading standard of music as a whole(though there are sincere people too, thats why, I said, as a whole..)... inspite of its 100 crore janta...
Plzz..
Dont say average kids..
Average, maybe just in studies...
Everyone...Everyone has a particular talent...
Be it just being able to make people laugh or able to talk for 24hrs or... I cant think of anything else right now but..
Can say its a gift of nature or chemistry..I choose the second though...
And intelligence lies in the harnessing of that gift...
Paise aur izzat dono kama sakte hai...
This is all what we want for peace and happiness, isnt it?
is taht true, madri?? devu actually did that!!?? fuck!! I have often wondered about this actually... butnever asked you.. I thought it was too delicate a topic to mention, though I do insult you in most of the ways possible!! tell me about this!! i never read it before... fuck!!!
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